Nancye1962

For me- it's "Tender" by Blur. My oldest daughter had a baby boy born in May of 1999. I still had two slightly younger daughters living at home then. My oldest daughter's son was "code blue'd" within 2 minutes of his birth, and she and I basically almost lived at the hospital near where he was born for the next three weeks. Then, smart me, I wanted him transferred to a "better" hospital, believing with all my heart they could help him. Well, they didn't. We had a meeting the day after they transferred him there, we were all told if he lived, he'd be a vegetable the rest of his life, etc. More to this story, believe me, we didn't find out certain things when we should have, but... still won't bring him back. Anyway, the kids chose finally to take him off of life support, and he died after 7 1/2 hours of not being on a ventilator. Well, the morning of his funeral, my youngest daughter came to me and said Mom- I have a song, I wonder if you could get the funeral director to play this in honor of Andy? Well, of course, by then, we couldn't have anyway. But, even if we could have, I, by then, wasn't into this type of music that of course my teenage daughter(s) were. But, we agreed to listen to it, she brought a cassette tape downstairs and put it into the stereo, while we were running around crying, trying to get dressed, etc., getting ready for the funeral. The song she played was Tender- by Blur. Ever since that morning, now, for all these years, every time I hear it, to me- it's my "Andy's song". So, yes, to me- this probobly is one of rock's "saddest songs". I loved my grandson, I only got to hold him in my arms one time, for maybe all of 15 minutes, but, still, to this day, when I hear that song,it is indeed my Andy's song. Yes, I know he's in Heaven, but for those 3 1/2 weeks, he was here, he was a huge part of my life. I'll always love him. And miss him. He even took a hold of my finger that morning I got to hold him for those 15 minutes, the Sunday morning that they took the life support off that night at 6 pm. He squeezed my finger like you wouldn't believe, I felt it then, he knew. Somehow, that sweet little boy knew. His grandma was there, holding him, loved him, and he knew. That little boy, he fought too, let me tell you. They took the life support off at 6 pm- he held on till 1:35 am. But anyway, to me, that's one of rock music's saddest songs, because it was the song that my youngest daughter wished to be played at my grandson's funeral.

Hi, Just joined this board tonight, didn't even know it was here till now! I just wanted to throw my two cents in here, as they say. When I first heard this song, and saw the video, I just had this really really strong feeling about it, and wanted to share. I don't know for sure if this has anything at all with what kind of message they wanted to send out, but this is how it struck me. To me, it just hits me as possibly being about a woman who has been abused, perhaps sexually? Sorry if this sounds, well, vulgar or anything. I don't mean it to be. Of course too, I just went into counseling myself, the very same week I first saw this video and heard the song, and it almost seemed to just "scream" out partially how I was feeling - this dr. hypnotized me and I remembered, sort of, things I had I guess blocked out all my life. Then, that very next night, I was watching CMT, and saw this video for the first time, and I just broke down. It just well, "fit". Only way I can think of to describe it. Perhaps I am a bit "off" in my thinking here, but, well, just wanted to share, and express my thoughts on it. I wish they'd put out something that told us all what it really was intended to mean. Thanks for listening, and if anyone ever does find out what it really means, or was intended to mean, give me a holler! Thanks again for your patience in listening.