Fariha Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 Coming back to the original question of whether men and women define love in the same way - first of all, I think "love" represents different things fr different people, regardless of gender. I don't believe in generalizations so I don't believe there's a set definition of love for women that's separate from what a man might think. There are similarities, however, that can't be denied. I, personally, thought I'd been in love way more times than I actually had (which I later realized!). About expressing love, I think it again varies from person to person. I know women who'd rather express their love for other halves thorugh actions rather than words, and I know men who'd go all out and keep telling the other person how much he loves her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lea Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 I just don't think I'm that far off Marcus sorry. Seriously, I would say I'm in a minority not in a cookie cutter mode at all. I neither feel confused or indifferent. Sorry if you feel like I'm picking on you, I just so don't agree with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MuzikTyme Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 When I speak what I feel is true does not mean I expect you or anyone else to agree. I just so don't agree with you. Nothing like an echo, hmm? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fariha Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 So we have an agreement then? You guys agree to disagree? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lea Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ombre Vivante Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 I love you guys Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lea Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 Ditto BA Glad we could amuse you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawna Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 It's also uttered by drunk guys It's the same in Spanish. I wouldn't say "I love you" to a family member or even a best friend. I'd say something akin to "I appreciate you," "I cherish you," "I like you," or the usual "you're totally awersome." Saying "I love you" - unless you're just hitting on every girl in the room - is something quite serious. In English, I say "I love you" even to the family cat and dog. I always make sure to say it to family and loved ones (and mean it) so that if anything were to ever happen to me, those would be the words I'd be remembered saying last this fascinates me. I've had people whose first language is Spanish say that some words in Spanish are just so much more strongly felt than words in English, so I think I know what you're saying. I say "I love you" to my son, my girlfriends, my siblings, and my parents... and I used to tell my (now-ex-) husband that, as well. But to every person, I now realize I say it slightly differently. I wonder if that's the secret about the English lanuage... in how it's said, rather than the word itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawna Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 after some incredible soul searching these past few days, and my impromptu research with yous kids, and also soliciting responses from peeps on Facebook, I have decided that, to me, this is what love is: love = I think I have it figured out. At least for me. And it's comfortable and welcome, this knowing I have. Love is not what you project onto others, it is what you feel FROM THEM that counts. If you love someone, do your best every day to allow them to feel it. Even if they don't say it, they will know it in their hearts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edna Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 I've had people whose first language is Spanish say that some words in Spanish are just so much more strongly felt than words in English That' s because their language is Spanish... I think it depends on the situation... I've been in love in French and in Spanish and the difference was in the other person, not in the words... Anyways... love is an amazing invention... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Seeker Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 I noticed that regardless of the male/female differences, saying "I love you" is used quite differently in English and German in general... here it's only used in a serious relationship, and even there it's quite a big thing I think in English it's a bit more casual, where it's said among relatives (umm ) or good friends (among women mostly) This really depends. I know you're not trying to generalise, but it really depends on where you're from and what you're used to, not that much to do with the language... e.g. I think Americans are a lot more likely to say 'I love you' to people than British are, but here it's on the rise too, just a lot more in some social groups than others... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farin Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 ^ yes, that's true... American influence over the media is distinctly larger here then British one... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Uncle Joe Posted July 16, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 Really? Even larger than the British tabs? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farin Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 British what? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Uncle Joe Posted July 16, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 Tabloid Newspapers (with page 6 girls) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farin Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 oh that nah, unfortunately we have our own... the most read German newspaper, the BILD, is a tabloid (with naked girls on page 1) the media I was referring to are more movies and TV shows Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RonJonSurfer Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 Naked girls should be on Page 1. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawna Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 Page 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ombre Vivante Posted July 26, 2009 Report Share Posted July 26, 2009 love = I think I have it figured out. At least for me. And it's comfortable and welcome, this knowing I have. Love is not what you project onto others, it is what you feel FROM THEM that counts. If you love someone, do your best every day to allow them to feel it. Even if they don't say it, they will know it in their hearts. Just when I think I have it all figured out, the dynamics change to something different. A coupla things have remained the same, though. Rejection still has that particular strong sting as it did the very first time I became aware of it. The other is this, this etrange angst that permeates every cell, right down to the atoms of my very being whenever I think of the girl I fancy... with another. Oh, I feel it at the pit of me stomach. I feel dizzy and restless. My hearing is muffled and I can't hear anything. Nothing makes sense and I laugh then, although I can't even hear myself. All day: thinking, thinking, over and over, thinking, and finally sinking into sleep from plain ol' exhaustion. I suppose a benefit of always being alone is that I can dedicate aaall that spent energy towards other loves and passions with a more focused and fine-tuned sense. I am centered Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Floydaholic Posted August 12, 2009 Report Share Posted August 12, 2009 What does it mean if an older girl says to you "If only you were older", and you didn't even say anything about being attracted to her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Levis Posted August 12, 2009 Report Share Posted August 12, 2009 What do you want it to mean? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
miamisammy29 Posted August 12, 2009 Report Share Posted August 12, 2009 It means that she has a fat, ugly daughter that's in her early 30's, and is jonesing to get her married and out of her house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Floydaholic Posted August 12, 2009 Report Share Posted August 12, 2009 At this moment in time, I want it of course to mean that she's attracted to me. But since she moved back to America yesterday, she's a bit far away at the moment! I've only known her for 2 months, but we're good friends. Staying in contact is key. Ah sammy, that's not her yet! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawna Posted August 13, 2009 Report Share Posted August 13, 2009 I said that to a younger guy once. He flirted with me for a long time every time we'd see each other. He was very charming, very attractive, and very fun to hang around with. However, considering the age difference there is no way in my wildest dreams anything was gonna happen there. (just for you really sickos - he was a legal adult... but barely.) Anyway, I said it to him wistfully after I'd downed two or three strong beverages, and I meant it only so he'd know that yes, he is all that, but he's just too damn young. Face value. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edna Posted August 13, 2009 Report Share Posted August 13, 2009 I say that to my young friends who know I'm joking... That means you' re much too young for her, Floyd. Some women like young boys, other prefer mature men... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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